Hypnodoc--Help me--I'm going bonkers over having to wake up to a new reality--My dream guy was not totally up front with the truth.

Hypnosis Master's Relationship & Help-Work.

This is a help-work blog, on the practical use of hypnosis in respect to finding, maintaining and repairing relationships. This has long been denied any official recognition, I wish to post here, what those applications are, and how they may be used.

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Going bonkers over having to wake up to a new reality--My dream guy was not totally up front with the truth.

1:24:38 AM/--Its a lonely weekend without my guy--one thirty in the morning--I'm lonely and sad, I don't know where to turn now. I'm too upset to sleep and ended up here at Ingenio.com ---It's caused by this; color="red"> I've been dating a man for most of a year. My painful gut level concern is mostly that I was misled to believe his divorce was final when it was not. His story was that his wife cheated on him with his son's high school coach. He claims they divorced using self-divorce filing through a paralegal color="black">secretary for the divorce procedure and this paralegal, somehow botched the divorce being final. On hearing this, I helped him get an attorney to get this issue cleared up. He now say's the divorce is not going to be pretty and he's got a lot to figure out including the possibility of being taken to the cleaners for his house, money support and access to his son. This new version does not jibe with the earlier story of the no contest involved, self-divorce agreement, he led me to believe had happened. We both are into sports things (and that's how I met him.) We attend week end and he stays over at my place as he lives some distance away. color="#ff0080">This has been one is the happiest times in my life. However, a weekend past, we had the usual great weekend together, but on Monday morning, as he was leaving he began babbling near incoherent about something, things as being "revolting and destructive" about to happening, and that he needed to be left alone for a while. As he left for home he implied that meant, I was not to call him at home, any more, he would call me. Nevertheless in the days following I get emails and amorous text messages from him. He says he's really lonely and depressed and is thinking of seeing a doctor about it. I really loved our happy relationship, and wish to deny that it that was just a sleep over party for him. I ask myself is this the end? Is it me? Do I need some insight into the male mind in a situation like this? I strongly feel I want to support him right now, but feel somehow this not a 100% on the level deal on his part. What can I do to feel whole and happy again?

Hypnosis Master's Response:

This is a very bad situation, you find yourself in --when despite your heartfelt love, things do not unfold as you had believed they were on the way to be, with the fulfillment of the dream guy entering your life. Now suddenly gone off track against an aura of backing out and uncertainty. I can guide you as to redirect your focus to better results, which is through some SELF-REPAIR mind-set changes you need to cope and cushion the blow, the frustration the anger, the grief, should this prove be the end or through his real love for you he fixes things honestly and fairly and comes to you as you envision it. You need help and support right now regardless of how this is to play out as your doubts are fully justified at this point. I understand you wanting to help, but are now shut out. Since this is so new and out of character for him. It might be wise to be his friend and sympathetic listener only as long as he reports process in freeing himself to be with you. If you don't set some boundaries you will end up his mistress as thousands of women do every year. He, presume is in a turmoil mind set and must ask for help, if he understands he needs help. I might, however help you to strengthen and minimize the impact this is having on you. Because this is a truly bad situation, let me guess the questions you avoided. Does this mean he and his wife are back together?-- (It sounds that way), but you should give him some time, as he asks for, to resolve his issues at home one way or the other. It doe not sound like being a married man's mistress or weekend party girl is compatible to your image of yourself. But you can see how a woman might find herself in that position at the end of a chain of events that unfolded contrary to what she really wonted. That men and women use rewritten truths to seize the moment and enjoy things as brilliant new attractions is a universal truth, you may not want to hear. It's too soon to write this guy off and move on, as there is still some hope, that he may yet. do what he has to in order to return to you. Waiting can be in vain and a form of self-torture or if differently, it finally happens, a great reward. The real question now facing you is what to do from here on, grieving, distracted, lonely and nearly crossing over into anxiety, anger and perhaps real . My HYPNOSIS processes are tailored to your issues and stresses need to be at regular interval to keep your life in stable comfort zone. and to unload the suppressed grief, hurt and anger would to offer the the elements of repair you would require probably would require {first weekly drill, month and finally-- do it yourself hypnosis.} This hypnosis method serves to break through the clutter, the fog, the self-lies (yes, you most likely have some too) to reach your subconscious, from there to guide you with specific empowering hypnosis Master's Hypno-Scripts. These are ones best described as useful for those mind states that are destructive to human relations or health, anger, anxiety, frustration, addiction, mood disorders. It's probable that is not the answer you hoped to hear. But the truth is, you being in charge of your self, and the re-enforcing your self-esteem and ability to make sensible choices is what it takes to weather the storm and come out on top.

Couple's Thrapy is not working for me. What can I do?

Professional Help Not unfolding As expected.

My sister in law, who is a psychiatric nurse and whose opinion I value, recommended

that I go to the doctor sessions with my depressed wife, even though I felt there was nothing wrong with me, to support the help for my, depressed wife. We had sessions together and separately with this psychiatrist, MD, doctor. He put my wife on Zolof and an anti-anxiety med, which made sense to me, and which seemed to help her to some degree, and for which I am grateful. However, In the joint sessions the doctor did try to get us to talk about our life together, the result was long silences and intervals where my wife set and sobbed, saying little. When I because uptight and offered some comment, he would tell me to let her answer, and the event just repeated again. The rest of the session was about effects or non-effects about the medications she was taking, He emphasized strict compliance and asked me for verification of the results. Fair enough, maybe he has a plan. this went on for six months, with some slight improvements in my wife's talking, both at home and in the sessions.

I do not know what went on in my wife's private sessions as the doctor keeps it confidential and that with my private sessions, it was the same. In my sessions, I told him my honest gripes, My wife was close to useless, listless, and for no reason, and was totally uninterested in making friendly or loving exchanges and that we had not had sex in a year. And that after nine months of therapy, she still rejected my overtures for closeness to the point I was feeling hopeless and was getting a little depressed myself. At this point the doctor insisted, I start on Zoloff--although I protested against it, with the argument my kind of depression had an obvious cause and was not clinical depression as was my wife's was. (Getting louder-)- That all he needed to do was "fix" my wife and I wouldn't need medication or sessions with him. This was too much for me now, frustrated and angry, I got up and walked out and haven't been back since. I have turned over the job of taking my wife to her appointments to my sister in law. Now I feel guilty and uptight about shifting my responsibility on to my sister in law and evading my responsibilities. But I no longer feel any confidence in this doctor's handling of me or my wife's issues.

My dilemma now is this, my wife does not want to change doctor's for herself, and has become verbal enough to tell me her depression is caused by me and I should get the hell out of her life. I feel I should report that to the doctor, but am now outside the loop. Should I just leave it alone and maybe start perhaps on-line some sort of therapy for my self to tolerate or immunize my self to my wife's new ability to bad mouth me, and chip away at my self-esteem. I'm getting so, that I dread coming home from work to be with her.

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My heart goes out to you, but I cannot make choices for you. Should you personally change doctors go back to he same doctor find a new one or seek on-line help has to be your decision. You report that your depressed wife it appears as the result the sessions has became verbal enough to blame you for her depression in an openly hostile way, you finds hard to take. As if the therapist didn't give a damn about this impacting you adversely and was somehow encouraging your wife to at hostile to you. As that's the way you feel, wither justified or not, it is something you need to work through either with the same therapist, or one of your own choosing. That can be done locally through available mental health sources, of various medical and psychological types that might fit your circumstances. Since you are approaching me and not these recommended services, I presume your are interested in hypnosis as a way to reassert your lost self-esteem, recover the feeling of being in control of your life and crucial now, the coping with not only your wife's depression but her blaming you through hostile vocalizing. (Which might be helping her, but crushing you in the process.) If you feel you have make a change, hypnosis is a way that for the most part attempts to directly change your mind-set and redirect your emotional energies toward appropriate functioning.

It is not medication or psychiatric counseling as ordinarily conceived, but the systematic restarting of motivations though repetitious applications of hypno-scripts that address your personal issues and needs. This is not magic or any pie in the sky stuff. The hypnosis work cannot change actual reality. It can change how you feel about and deal with your realities. In your case, it would logically be, to create a mind-set of immunity to your wife's hostility, re-building your self-esteem and coping abilities. This has to be done over time and new scripts prepared, and as adjusted to meet the inevitable changing circumstances and stresses.

Let me know what you chose to do I would be happy to offer what advice that I can anytime you ask.

Forrest Butler, Hypnosis Master

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A Guy asks--''My girl friend is a relentless 'Party Girl' - - -What can I do..?

----I am working days and attending college at night to finalize my professional certification. I have neither the time or the money to do more than a one of two dancing and drinking parties a month, much less two or three times a week . Recently she has started going out with the girls-harmless socializing she tells me. This really upsets me, I can't study as my mind drifts away from my lesson work on to wondering just where and with who she is partying. I feel jealousy, loneliness and a kind or grief obviously sicko. I have never experienced such misery before. Somehow, I see this as the beginning of the end of our relationship of more than 2 years. I try to tell myself that might be so--and I had better accept it. I also fear failing the upcoming certification examinations and thereby, losing out on a planned placement opportunity, and a major embarrassment, if I should not pass. Can you calm my mind so I can at least study and retain focus long enough to make the no exception pass or fail examination work.

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Your requests for hypnosis to aid your examination study is very straight forward and as you point out has only been a problem since you are not able to devote adequate time to go out girlfriend and the associated partying and of course, the romance activity she desires. This could change in various ways with new circumstances, so don't be too quick to see this as the end. It might be useful if she asked for the help, but that is unlikely while she is in this social whirlwind.

As a practical matter you need two hypno-scripts 1] To communicate your feelings to your girl friend, and importantly, for you coping, and grasping what her feelings and hopes are, to slow down. Without some reframing in your relationship arena you will continue to suffer.

2] The hypno-script for focused study when under a pass-fail examination pressure.

To do this, takes some further details about your personality and the sort of thoughts that are flooding your mind and undermining your ability to study. We have some clues-- you mentioned to start with, but it's a good guess you did not say them all. An effective hypno-script needs to fit a person as close as a proper key fits a certain lock. When strong disruptions exist, the better match the hypno-script is, the better the chance for the desired results. Any case with such strong interferences, like this one, needs more than any ready made hypno-scripts, but needs precise suggestions that meet the client's authentic needs and issues. Logically best results generally occur when a person's worries, issues and needs are clearly understood and also explains, why any particular results might be derailed with new pressures. You need to set up the working process for study with enough time to cover the material and have your energy at peak performance, at and through the examination event.

Contact me when you are ready, do not wait to the last minute.

Forrest Butler: Hypnosis Master Aedvisor and Hypnosis Practitioner. Best wishes.